Is Love Ever Blind?

Today it seems I have more questions than answers. Decided I’d share a random thought that came to mind a few days ago that led to some real soul searching and prayer about the topic…

“Love is blind.” Love is blind? Who came up with this saying? What is the idea behind it? What does it mean to you? I was sitting alone thinking of all the people I love or have loved at one point in time and realized I wouldn’t categorize any of them as “blind love.” Love is a strong word and is usually not handed out to just any passerby. I mean, as Christians, we are taught to show love to all people and though we may have love in our hearts for them, it’s not often that they hear the words “I love you.” We save those words for people who have reached our hearts in ways unimaginable. Whether family, friends, or mates those three words are usually reserved for those that hold a special place in our hearts. I can honestly say that the love I share for others is intentional.

Just a few months ago, I remember praying that my children would not fall in love before understanding what love is. Even before their birth, I’m tapping into my motherly instincts and praying that they are protected. That’s intentional love to the fullest! I’m the guarded type. Never quick to move or easily influenced. So I’m curious as to what this whole “Love is blind” notion means.

As I sat alone thinking about this concept, I came up with a definition. Right or wrong, it’s what I think is meant behind the statement. When you love someone sometimes you look beyond their faults. There are warning signs, red flags, hazard signs… but it’s something in us that makes us want to see through those things and focus on the good. Sometimes we see more of the potential instead of the actual person. I don’t care if it’s a father who abandoned you, a mother who abused you, or a mate that disappointed you… there are people you will love in spite of it all. This is what I would define as what was meant behind “Love is blind.”

However, I’m led to believe that even that doesn’t make complete sense. Someone who is blind, is someone without sight. I believe that those who say “my love is blind” aren’t blinded at all. They see all the indiscretions, the deceit, and flaws but they make a choice to ignore them. Their desire to love is more than their desire to be loved… truly loved the way God intended them to be. I’m really not trying to place judgment on what is wrong or right, I’m just giving some food for thought. What are you turning a blind eye to in the name of love? … And is it safe to say that the feeling may not be love at all?

I’ll leave you with how the Word defines “love.” Yes, I know many of you have heard this repeated many times before, but I encourage you to take these words in as if it’s your first time, meditate on them, and think about the love you have in your life.

I Cor. 13:1-8 reads: “If I speak in the tongues  of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing. Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.”

Be Bold,

Be Fabulous,

Be LOVE

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