The beauty about having a relationship with God over simply doing religion is that you have an open heart to receive messages that are rooted in love and transparency. Pastor Toure Roberts opens his heart to talk on a subject that is deeply rooted in his own personal journey of life after divorce. YES! You heard that right. He is a pastor. He is divorced. Oh and he’s unashamed. Oh and one more thing… HAPPY! Not happy that his marriage didn’t last. No real person enters marriage desiring to be divorced but it takes two mature individuals to recognize what is and is not of God and have the courage to move forward, especially as a spiritual leader.
Now listen, before you throw stones, I come from under a teaching that lives, breaths, and praises all things marriage! My pastors have been married for almost 30 years. They lead an awesome ministry called “Marriage Made EZ” and they offer pre-marital counseling to all members who are contemplating marriage. So I am a huge proponent for marriage. Godly marriage. I desire to be married. I believe that marriage should be something that you do not get out of alive. However, for the first time I witnessed a different side. Not until a few weeks ago did I hear a man of God talk so openly about dividing marriage into two components. Marriages that are ordained of God and those that are entered into outside of the will of God. It’s not to say that all marriages that are done prior to getting saved are doomed. It’s to say that when people grow into their purpose and realize that they are not aligned then it leaves open the question “Is it God’s will for us to sacrifice His purpose in order to save a marriage that wasn’t designed for us?” It’s a heavy topic and one that I’m sure will lead to deep conversations. Which is why I want to try something different this week…
After you’ve viewed the video on the “The 5 Keys to Identifying Your Soulmate” I’d like to open up a discussion. Post your thoughts and questions to the blog and I’ll pick a few to address in my next entry. If I don’t get any feedback I’ll keep it moving to the next topic, but I truly believe that this would be a good forum to dive into the stigma of being a divorcee and a Christian, as well as the whole mystery behind “soulmates!”
What’s your thoughts on divorce? Do you believe in soulmates? Are there any of the 5 Keys that your disagree with? And since I know some of you all won’t take the time to view the video in it’s entirety I’m going to share the 5 Keys with you in hopes to entice you to take an hour out to hear the full story! It’s worth it!! So here you go:
Key #1: CHEMISTRY. You must have some sort of magic or frequency. You can have chemistry with 50 people. Don’t be a slave to chemistry.
Key #2: CONNECTION. A draw or desire to go further with that person. There’s a sense of need to be together but the need has to be qualified. That need will be mutual at the same time.
Key #3: WHOLENESS. This qualifies the connection. Co-dependency will connect two people. Building a bond based on co-dependency feels like love. A soul mate doesn’t fill a void. The relationship will be irrelevant once the issues of the individual are addressed. You will sabotage a soulmate if you’re not whole. Feeding loneliness will get you in trouble.
Key #4: DIVINE CONFIRMATION. You need a word from God. You should feel the presence of God. Spiritual life and love life are not separate. He will always confirm that this is your soulmate.
Key #5: KNOW A SENSE OF PURPOSE. Your soulmate is for your purpose. Don’t waste time! Be honest if you’re lonely. If you don’t know, it’s a NO. It’s always a NO unless God says YES.
Okay so those are the keys but there’s so many more nuggets in the video! Check it out, reflect on the lesson, and share your thoughts so we can speak openly about love, life, divorce, and soulmates!! Happy Tuesday!!!