Your Boaz should NOT be just about good looks, a nice smile, smooth words, nice job and car, muscular build, fashionable clothes, big connections, etc. If he does have all that, great! But that is NOT what you should be looking for.
If you want to recognize the guy that God is sending you, you must think like God. How does God choose? Let’s look at what God said to Samuel when He was selecting a king for Israel.
“But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not look at his appearance or at his physical stature, because I have refused him. For the Lord does not see as man sees; for man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.” (I Samuel 16:7)” – Nikisha Brunson urbanbushbabes.com Continue reading “Boaz vs. Bozo”
Be a Gift, Not a Prize
So I got mad the other day. The kind of mad that makes your knee bounce up and down because for some reason that seems to help you control your tongue… or is that just me? Regardless, just know that I was ready to pounce. If there’s one thing that can get me going is to see any one of my friends hurt. Well this particular night, I was hearing a dear friend of mine recant the day her heart was broken. No this wasn’t years ago, it was just a few days past. So because I have been on the recipient end of heartbreak a few times myself, I knew all too well what kind of pain she was in. This kind of pain doesn’t subside with a bottle of Advil. You can’t just say, “Take two and call me in the morning.”
Instead, I encouraged her to not blame herself… to see the guy for who he really is and not who she wants him to be. I encouraged her to be true to her feelings and not to feel guilty about being angry and expressing that anger responsibly. I told her she was worth more than what she was given and that a guy that truly cared about her as a friend would have never treated her that way. All of those things were true to my heart but it wasn’t until I was driving home that God gave me the true revelation of what many women have failed to grasp. I heard, “Don’t treat yourself like a prize when you are a gift.” Continue reading “Be a Gift, Not a Prize”
Spoon Fed
Jer. 29:11 “For I know the plans I have for you,” says the Lord. “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.”
If I could put my gratefulness into words, it would take me years to write it all down. God has a way of revealing just enough of His plan, His purpose, and His love so that we can recognize and give more of ourselves to Him daily. The more I spend time with Him, the more He spoon feeds me His wisdom. I sat at home and marveled at how far God has brought me in just a few short months. I’ve endured tests and trials that could have wiped me out if I had not had a relationship with God the Almighty. Continue reading “Spoon Fed”
Power & Beauty
Many different things in life inspire me. Daily I ask God that my ears be sensitive to His voice. A few weeks ago I was watching a webisode called “Red Table” led by Jada Pinkett-Smith. She sat with her mother and daughter and discussed various questions that they each placed in the box for each other to answer. The interview was compelling but the part that stuck out most to me was when Jada’s mother asked her if she held any animosity toward her for having not raised her properly while battling drug addiction. It was a powerful question and the one quote in particular that stuck in my head was when Jada said, “I look for the power and beauty in every situation, no matter how bad it is.” Continue reading “Power & Beauty”
I Don’t Do Knockoffs
Jeremiah 17:9-10
“The heart is hopelessly dark and deceitful,
a puzzle that no one can figure out.
But I, God, search the heart
and examine the mind.
I get to the heart of the human.
I get to the root of things.
I treat them as they really are,
not as they pretend to be.”
So many times you hear people say “Follow your heart.” If only we followed the voice of God and got into His Word, we would save ourselves from a lot of unnecessary troubles. Sometimes we need to be saved from ourselves… saved from our own thoughts, our inner demons, and our own understanding. That’s where I am and though it’s not an easy thing to go through, it’s necessary to get to God’s expected end. Continue reading “I Don’t Do Knockoffs”
Say it with your actions
I have so much on my mind this evening that as I type, I’m not even sure what will come of it. This is the feeling my pastor must have felt this past Sunday as he shared how he had no clue where his lesson would go that morning. He had planned to ministry at each service before and Holy Spirit took it into another direction. So here I am with a plan of exactly how I wanted my blogs to take shape this new year of the Bold & the Fabulous and I’m just not feeling like it’s going to happen this week. Continue reading “Say it with your actions”
Faith Talk
Genesis 17:6 And I will make you exceedingly fruitful and I will make nations of you, and kings will come from you.Newsflash! I deserve God’s best because simply put… God says I do! So when I talk about flying on a private jet, having all of my needs met, owning a vacation spot in St. Barts, and having a shoe closet full of Louboutins… please don’t question why I have to have all that. My answer will forever remain the same … “Because I serve a limitless God that can orchestrate the manifestation of my limitless desires.” Now, are these are material things? YES… Is that all that I desire… NO. However, I don’t get much push back when I say things like… “I walk in divine health all the days of my life”… or that “my family is free from all attacks of the enemy, especially addictive behaviors.” No one has anything to say about that but it’s something about material possessions that has people tripping. I know I’m not the only Christian that likes nice things. I’m not saying that everyone has the same desires either… I adore shoes but not everyone does… I get that! But if barely making ends meet is the best you see for yourself than so be it… As for me, I don’t serve an average God so I don’t intend to live an average lifestyle!! Continue reading “Faith Talk”
Discount Shoppers Not Welcomed!!
I’ve been a bit out of it lately as you could probably tell from my last blog. To me it read like a bunch of rambling words with no clear direction of where they were going. I was so unmotivated to do anything these past few weeks but I’m making up for it this week! I can’t say I’m completely cured but I’m back to share a valuable lesson that was spoken to me a few days ago. This is probably the boldest message I’ve written thus far and may step on some toes but it’s a necessary topic that many churches shy away from to the detriment of the members who battle with it everyday. Continue reading “Discount Shoppers Not Welcomed!!”
TAPPING INTO THE “WHY”
So this past Saturday I reluctantly dragged myself out of bed at 6:45 a.m., dressed myself in the required business attire, and headed out the door to a mandatory ministry of helps meeting at my church. It’s only a few Saturdays out of the year that we do this but that particular Saturday was a struggle for me. Everything in me wanted to cover my head and sleep in. BUT I gave my word that I would attend so that sealed the deal for me. I knew it would be worth my time once I got there but I had no idea it would be all that it turned out to be! In three hours I came away with so much to help me grow as a person, not just a believer. It was all about how to best represent yourself as an open, approachable, and welcoming person so that you remain a gateway for building spiritual relationships. As the guest speaker spoke, I began to analyze myself and I came up with one undeniable fact… I’m none of those things!! Haha Continue reading “TAPPING INTO THE “WHY””
KNOW YOUR WORTH
One of the reasons I enjoy sharing with you all every week is because I never feel pressure to act like I have all the answers. I probably have more questions than anything and each day I learn something new about myself. The best teachers are the random people that I interact with on a weekly basis. This week in particular it seemed that everyone wanted to know the same thing… “Why aren’t you married yet?” The guy at church, an old high school classmate, and a childhood friend to name a few and they all gave me that look to say, “What’s wrong with you?” I swore if one more person grabbed my ring finger looking for a rock I thought I would scream! I wanted to yell, “I’M GOOD!!” Instead, I politely smiled and said, “Not yet.” Trust me, no one is more excited to meet the future Mr. Ashton (lol, j/k) than me but I’m trying to enjoy the season I’m in now! And that is where many of us, especially women, miss it! When I meet him trust me the world will know! Continue reading “KNOW YOUR WORTH”
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